Sometimes, i guess every relationship goes through a difficult time...
A while back my parents seemed to go through such a rough patch... I happened to be visiting home at the time, and while it really really hurt to see them like that, i think it was rather fortunate i was there.
Mum, is the kind of person who really keeps our family together in many ways. She's funny cos she'll call every couple of days but a minute into the conversation she'll say "ok, bye son, will talk to you later ok...love you da"... it's like she just needs to connect and know i'm ok... in everything she does one can see she totally loves us... and a lot of her happiness depends on us being happy... and us taking an interest in her. i guess its that way for most people... but given that both me and my sis now are in different cities it can be a little lonely, especially cos dad does a hundred things on his own...
I miss her lots sometimes. I try and make it a point to spend quality time with my folks whenever i'm down... but time lost will always be a regret i guess...
So while there was little I could do to really help them through whatever it was they were going through (and possibly even making it worse for em cos it would've pained em even more knowing that i was witness to these times), i was there for them in a way i can't really explain. Just being there. I did little except wake up in the morning and go for a walk with dad, then come home and laze... then in the evening go for a walk with mum... I ended up spending a lotta time counseling mum during our walks... and in many ways she just needed me to be around to care...
and eventually things got back to being super... but i really didn't 'know' i could play that kind of a role in someone's life... of being a support... and it gave me lots of happiness to just be there and give unconditional love. to support. and it was a little draining and tiring for various reasons. But looking back, i sorta feel a lotta emotion. it felt special to be that important to someone. and to care that much as well.
i'm not sure what we'd be without the relationships in our lives...
life is short...now hold her hand dammit!
A while back my parents seemed to go through such a rough patch... I happened to be visiting home at the time, and while it really really hurt to see them like that, i think it was rather fortunate i was there.
Mum, is the kind of person who really keeps our family together in many ways. She's funny cos she'll call every couple of days but a minute into the conversation she'll say "ok, bye son, will talk to you later ok...love you da"... it's like she just needs to connect and know i'm ok... in everything she does one can see she totally loves us... and a lot of her happiness depends on us being happy... and us taking an interest in her. i guess its that way for most people... but given that both me and my sis now are in different cities it can be a little lonely, especially cos dad does a hundred things on his own...
I miss her lots sometimes. I try and make it a point to spend quality time with my folks whenever i'm down... but time lost will always be a regret i guess...
So while there was little I could do to really help them through whatever it was they were going through (and possibly even making it worse for em cos it would've pained em even more knowing that i was witness to these times), i was there for them in a way i can't really explain. Just being there. I did little except wake up in the morning and go for a walk with dad, then come home and laze... then in the evening go for a walk with mum... I ended up spending a lotta time counseling mum during our walks... and in many ways she just needed me to be around to care...
and eventually things got back to being super... but i really didn't 'know' i could play that kind of a role in someone's life... of being a support... and it gave me lots of happiness to just be there and give unconditional love. to support. and it was a little draining and tiring for various reasons. But looking back, i sorta feel a lotta emotion. it felt special to be that important to someone. and to care that much as well.
i'm not sure what we'd be without the relationships in our lives...
life is short...now hold her hand dammit!
that's when you realise you're an adult, even if its with people who will always consider you a child. when you realise that things are not white and black, but most stuff is different shades of grey. and when you can do more by keeping quiet and just being there for someone, than by pushing through your point of what's right and what's wrong. it's called coming of age, my friend....
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